Today's episode features author, speaker, and loss mama Adriel Booker. Adriel shares her story of multiple miscarriages, encourages loss mothers that it is ok to grieve on a wide spectrum of emotions, and advocates to the world for how to tenderly care for bereaved mothers. She also challenges us to allow the Lord to remake our pain into something beautiful.
Heart Lesson: Enter into God's rest and presence, and quiet my mind and heart enough to hear His voice.
What Adriel wants the world to be aware of regarding pregnancy and infant loss:
Pregnancy loss can be such an intangible form of grief, especially for people who aren't experiencing it themselves.
The human heart itself will grieve differently from instance to instance and from circumstance to circumstance.
Love is never safe, it is always risky, and that's hard for our mama hearts.
When you lose a baby you aren't just losing that little one, but you're losing the life you had begun to imagine.
After a mother loses a third baby, what else is there to say?
There is just no one right way to grieve. We're all going to respond differently, even as we find the common threads in the midst of it.
God is not intimidated by our big questions. He is not put off by our humanity. It is our heart posture makes all the difference. Our heart posture should say, "I need you to meet me here and help me understand."
I think the big questions keep us tethered to God because we can't find the answer to those questions without some level of withness with Jesus.
Especially as believers we should absolutely be able to rejoice with people then they're celebrating, but we should also walk alongside them when they're suffering.
What would you do for a new mom, and what would you do for someone grieving a death? It's that complicated and that simple.
Your grief might undo you, but it can also remake you if you are willing to let Christ work with you to make something beautiful happen.
What does it mean to pull heaven to earth right now?
When we tell our stories it gives others a sense of permission to share theirs too.
Other wonderful books for bereaved mothers:
I Will Carry You, by Angie Smith
Grieving the Child I Never Knew, by Kathe Wunnenberg
Holding Onto Hope, by Nancy Guthrie
Just Keep Breathing, by Jordan Tate
The Jesus of My Grief, by Kate Kelty
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