This episode of the Heart Lessons Podcast features actor, producer, and author Candace Cameron Bure. We chat about her newest book, Kind is the New Classy, and why kindness is so important. We also talk strategies for how to be kind when you don't feel like it, and why Christians sometimes have a hard time displaying kindness to those who hold viewpoints that are different from their own.
Purchase Kind is the New Classy
Heart Lesson: Push into the Lord even more.
Galatians 5:22-23 (fruits of the Spirit)
I believe we can bring kindness back and change the culture. But it all starts with you and it starts with me - it starts with one person at a time.
You have to work at kindness and build it like a muscle and form new habits for yourself.
Kindness can still be bold it's just staying respectful in your character and treating the other person with dignity.
What will people say about Jesus because of me?
I trust God and I know that He has my back. I trust that He will give me the words or disposition I need in that moment.
Jesus's kindness was never conditional. He recognized the image of God in everyone and treated everyone with that appropriate level of kindness.
Kindness is love in action. It is something you do. Love is also a verb, but it can have emotions attached. I don't have to have an emotional feeling toward someone to be kind to them.
Steps to Choosing Kindness:
On this final part of the Father's Day series here on the Heart Lessons Podcast, Nigel Anderson shares his perspective on fatherhood, approaching racial issues with grace, and how we can all be unified under the good news of the gospel of Jesus Christ. This is a very sensitive but very important topic, and I am so thankful for Nigel's willingness to share his heart and his wisdom and speak into these issues with such a spirit of grace. May you receive it with just as much love and grace.
Heart Lesson: Never stop trusting.
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Philando Castile and Tamir Rice shootings
Come Thou Fount hymn (Prone to Wander)
Running from who you don't want to be isn't enough to keep you on the right path.
If we are not intentional about keeping Christ at the center of everything we will find something to put there.
If you're a Christian you should care about everything because of the Imago Dei and if not, you should fight to view all of it as important.
We need to get out of the identity of our camps and figure out what the meaning of a real Christian is.
The intentionality of the gospel is the restoration of a relationship that was eternally severed.
Everyone's perspective is valid and it is, by definition, incomplete.
The solution is knowing people.
A prayer before confronting another's perspective: In this moment, Lord, give me grace to listen and wisdom to know if I should say something and if so, what that something should be.
We are all different and that is fine. It is beautiful.
We should elevate the gospel above all else.
The Way (song)
My Role in Racial Reconciliation (blog post)
In this second part of the Father's Day series here on the Heart Lessons podcast, Chris Tate shares his heart and his journey with infant loss. He shares the story of his two beautiful baby girls, Ellie and Elsie, and speaks openly about what it is like to be a loss father, to support your wife in grief, and how to trust the Lord even in the midst of such tragedy.
Heart Lesson: Love God with all your heart and love people.
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Myers Briggs Type Index (personality test)
Enneagram (personality test)
The story of Eli and Samuel (Did you call me ...?)
God is for us and not against us and that knowledge allowed me to trust Him completely.
Stay the course and be there for your wife even if you aren't receiving instant feedback in that moment.
Spend more time together even if that means embracing the pain.
There isn't one way to grieve correctly. It is an individual process for everyone.
Advice to another infant loss father: Spend time with your spouse and continue to love her in the best way you know how because it gives you strength to move through it all together.
In Part I of the Father's Day Series here on the Heart Lessons Podcast, Jerrad Lopes from Dad Tired shares what it means for a husband and father to lead his family well, and to look to the perfect Father as the prime example of leadership and service to his family.
Heart Lesson: Recognizing that God is a person with his own personality, thoughts, patterns, and preferences.
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3 Ways to Improve Your Marriage and Parenting (podcast episode)
Love and Respect (book)
The Heart Lessons Podcast Episode 14 (on foster care)
Three steps to leading your family well:
Behavior is always a manifestation of what is going on in the heart.
You don't need a bunch of rules to follow, you need Jesus to change your heart.
We will have three titles that extend beyond the grave: disciple, husband, and father. What do you spend your time on that does not make sense for the kingdom of God?
Take initiative and stumble your way through spiritual leadership.
The good news of the gospel is that you don't have to be the perfect daddy because you can point your kids back to the perfect daddy.
How can a wife help her husband lead well:
I love you simply because you are my child just as God does not love me based on what I accomplish but simply his heart toward me.