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Heart Lesson: He who promised is faithful. His mercies and grace are new every morning.
Jesus shamed shame on the cross.
To have been broken for so long and then to find healing in Christ, that is the message of the gospel.
We want to be delivered from our trouble but most often Jesus will take us through it.
What is abundant life in the midst of heartache and sorrow? That is the faith-filled life.
If I can have hope then maybe what I went through can help give someone else hope for one more day.
It is not sin to not want to go through something. The sin would be to stop there.
Allow your pain to make you better and not bitter.
Allow pain to make you better:
In this episode, I share the part of my story where I was most angry at God. You might be surprised to hear that it was not when my unborn babies were diagnosed or in the grieving months that followed my losses but rather, a time when I felt like God owed something to me.
Through Jesus, I, a sinner, am made righteous before the Father. He traded the death and eternal punishment I deserved for eternal life.
God owed me nothing but gave me everything.
I had forgotten that God owed nothing to me and that even the breath in my lungs belonged to Him.
I am to live my life in sacrificial surrender to the Lord because of what He has done for me. As soon as I forget that, I begin to feel entitled to certain things in life.
I had been clinging to the desire for a healthy baby so tightly, probably throwing a spiritual tantrum. But before the Lord could bless me in that way, I needed to calm my heart and remember my place as a living sacrifice and be at peace with God's good and pleasing and perfect will, even if that meant no more babies.
This is not a formula for getting what you want but rather, a reminder to surrender to the Lord's will because He owed us nothing and yet gave us everything, which is far beyond what any of us deserve.
Sophie Hudson, aka Boo Mama, shares what it is like to mother a teenager. From what she tells me, it's actually pretty fantastic.
Heart Lesson: My hope is built on nothing less than Jesus's blood and righteousness.
The Lord is sweet in that just as He grows them up, He grows us too.
I want to enjoy the stage I'm in and not dread when it's going to end.
Where am I parenting out of fear? Because in the end, it's not healthy for either one of us.
Kids freak out about what we freak out about.
The sweetness of life is that it is a gift at every stage and these kids are a gift at every age and golly, it's so fun to get to be a part of it.
Conversations on sex and conversations on friendship need to be ongoing, not just one time.
Survival Kit for Parenting Teens:
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Caitlin Mathieu of Due to Joy talks about what it means to be an invisible mother, a mother with no living children. She is a wealth of wisdom for leaning on the Lord during dark times and how to navigate the road of invisible motherhood with grace.
Heart Lesson: The Lord wants to turn my mourning into dancing and return my joy even in the middle of my pain.
Jesus wants to bring purpose to our pain. He does not want to waste it.
The devil wants me to believe that God has left me or that my body has failed me. But those are all lies.
We need to extend grace to people who say things and don't know your story and people who say things and do know your story.
I've had to release my white-knuckle grip on my fear because it's too heavy for me to carry and it isn't mine to carry.
You are not alone.
My heart that is so ready to love another baby is the same heart that already loves a baby who is a citizen of heaven.
Three Ways to Fight the Darkness:
My Invisible Motherhood (blog post)
Through the Lens Podcast Episode 8: Mothering After Loss (podcast episode)
Katie Bennett, author of Heavenly-Minded Mom, shares what it means to mother in light of eternity and how that truth can transform our everyday lives.
Heart Lesson: God is holy and it is not ok for me to be unholy. He is holy so I must be holy.
I felt God leading me to make my faith my choice.
He called me to live the truth of an eternal reality and pursue the simple task of living for Him and obeying Him moment by moment.
All of our meaningless tasks are given lasting meaning because when we work hard and heartily as unto the Lord, we will receive an eternal inheritance as a reward.
It’s all passing away. Everything except how we loved, how we persevered, and how we faithfully accomplished the tasks that God laid out for us.
Determine what is best for the kingdom of God and put that above your own wants and desires.
What does it mean to throw off the things that hinder us so that we can pursue Christ with all we’ve got, running our race with perseverance?
Allow your sense of overwhelm and need drive you to the cross and ask for help.
Even if things don’t go how we expected, they went how God expected and knew it would happen. what is important is not the outcome, it is taking steps of obedience and trust in the midst of that situation.
It is important to let my children in on how I think.
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My dear friend, Lauren Casper, joins us for this episode of the Mother's Day series and shares what it means to mother a transracial family and embrace the diversity of skin colors and cultures within her own home.
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Heart Lesson: The Lord is close to the brokenhearted.
Matthew 22:36-40 (The Greatest Commandment)
I want to be intentional to put in the time so I can raise my children as children of color, because they are, and not try to make them fit into my white world.
I need to learn about cultural differences because I don't want to erase the heritage they came from, as much as I possibly can.
So much of adoption is about loss. As beautiful as the process of adoption is, it is impossible to ignore that there is an enormous component of loss there, particularly for the children.
I do everything I can to embrace and celebrate their culture because I want to show them it is not something they were rescued out of.
It is our responsibility not to look away because how can we love each other well when we do?
This is how we raise racially aware children; by putting diversity in their world from early on.
I have recognized my need to have a lifelong posture of student and continuously be asking and learning and listening.
Empathy means to treat someone how they want to be treated and that requires listening and learning.
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