Sophie Hudson, aka Boo Mama, shares what it is like to mother a teenager. From what she tells me, it's actually pretty fantastic.
Heart Lesson: My hope is built on nothing less than Jesus's blood and righteousness.
The Lord is sweet in that just as He grows them up, He grows us too.
I want to enjoy the stage I'm in and not dread when it's going to end.
Where am I parenting out of fear? Because in the end, it's not healthy for either one of us.
Kids freak out about what we freak out about.
The sweetness of life is that it is a gift at every stage and these kids are a gift at every age and golly, it's so fun to get to be a part of it.
Conversations on sex and conversations on friendship need to be ongoing, not just one time.
Survival Kit for Parenting Teens:
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Caitlin Mathieu of Due to Joy talks about what it means to be an invisible mother, a mother with no living children. She is a wealth of wisdom for leaning on the Lord during dark times and how to navigate the road of invisible motherhood with grace.
Heart Lesson: The Lord wants to turn my mourning into dancing and return my joy even in the middle of my pain.
Jesus wants to bring purpose to our pain. He does not want to waste it.
The devil wants me to believe that God has left me or that my body has failed me. But those are all lies.
We need to extend grace to people who say things and don't know your story and people who say things and do know your story.
I've had to release my white-knuckle grip on my fear because it's too heavy for me to carry and it isn't mine to carry.
You are not alone.
My heart that is so ready to love another baby is the same heart that already loves a baby who is a citizen of heaven.
Three Ways to Fight the Darkness:
My Invisible Motherhood (blog post)
Through the Lens Podcast Episode 8: Mothering After Loss (podcast episode)
My dear friend, Lauren Casper, joins us for this episode of the Mother's Day series and shares what it means to mother a transracial family and embrace the diversity of skin colors and cultures within her own home.
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Heart Lesson: The Lord is close to the brokenhearted.
Matthew 22:36-40 (The Greatest Commandment)
I want to be intentional to put in the time so I can raise my children as children of color, because they are, and not try to make them fit into my white world.
I need to learn about cultural differences because I don't want to erase the heritage they came from, as much as I possibly can.
So much of adoption is about loss. As beautiful as the process of adoption is, it is impossible to ignore that there is an enormous component of loss there, particularly for the children.
I do everything I can to embrace and celebrate their culture because I want to show them it is not something they were rescued out of.
It is our responsibility not to look away because how can we love each other well when we do?
This is how we raise racially aware children; by putting diversity in their world from early on.
I have recognized my need to have a lifelong posture of student and continuously be asking and learning and listening.
Empathy means to treat someone how they want to be treated and that requires listening and learning.
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Katie Bennett, author of Heavenly-Minded Mom, shares what it means to mother in light of eternity and how that truth can transform our everyday lives.
Heart Lesson: God is holy and it is not ok for me to be unholy. He is holy so I must be holy.
I felt God leading me to make my faith my choice.
He called me to live the truth of an eternal reality and pursue the simple task of living for Him and obeying Him moment by moment.
All of our meaningless tasks are given lasting meaning because when we work hard and heartily as unto the Lord, we will receive an eternal inheritance as a reward.
It’s all passing away. Everything except how we loved, how we persevered, and how we faithfully accomplished the tasks that God laid out for us.
Determine what is best for the kingdom of God and put that above your own wants and desires.
What does it mean to throw off the things that hinder us so that we can pursue Christ with all we’ve got, running our race with perseverance?
Allow your sense of overwhelm and need drive you to the cross and ask for help.
Even if things don’t go how we expected, they went how God expected and knew it would happen. what is important is not the outcome, it is taking steps of obedience and trust in the midst of that situation.
It is important to let my children in on how I think.
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Hayley Morgan, co-author of Wild & Free and the just-released Always Enough, Never Too Much, comes to the podcast today to talk about walking big and wild in who God made us to be, walking free in what Jesus Christ bought for us on the cross, and then the truth that staying tethered to the Lord will allow us to live in being always enough and never, ever too much. We also talk fearing ourselves, the enneagram, and how to discern the voice of the Lord over the voice of the enemy.
Heart Lesson: Be needy of the Lord.
There is a difference between knowledge of something and understanding of something. Knowledge comes when you learn something for the first time, but the understanding comes when you work it out in the day to day and apply it to many different situations and continue to preach those truths to yourself.
It is not about not having goals or not being ambitious, it's about a right ordering of your heart toward the Lord.
There is nothing you can do to make the Lord love you less, and there is nothing you can do to make Him love you more.
Our main job is to stay tethered to the Lord.
God's correction is kind and never feels like condemnation. It feels like a light has been shined onto something.
You've already been found out as a person who has a sinful nature and a person who lives in a fallen world. And also, you've already been redeemed.
[God's correction] is not indicting of our identity, it is God calling us His child who has done something wrong.
I want women to know they can't go too far one way or the other. Not that they lack the ability to, but that if they are intimately connected with the Lord, He is going to bring them right back to where they need to be.
God is secure in Himself and in His creation.
When we fear our own selves, it is almost clinging to what was instead of what could be.
My hope is that women would see this is a story more about God and not about them and they have a beautiful part to play in it, but they don't need to fear their capacity. God is not afraid of what they will do with how He has created them, especially when living a life that is yielded to Him.
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Ginger Hubbard shares her insights, wisdom, and all-around awesome tips for reaching our children with heart-oriented training. She aims not to only change their behavior, but reach their hearts.
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Heart Lesson: Trust that God is in control of my adult children and working in their lives.
Ginger's 3-Step Plan:
There is so much more to getting our children to act right; we need to get them to think right and be motivated out of a love for virtue rather than a fear of punishment.
Jesus himself asked heart-probing questions and in doing so, the people had to evaluate themselves.
It is never enough to train children what not to do; we need to tell them what to do. That's what it means to train them in righteousness, to walk in the wisdom of God's word.
We are administering grace and mercy when we take the time to diligently train our child up in the way they should go.
I love you too much to allow you to disobey and live foolishly.
There should be a clean slate and forgiveness after consequences.
We are responsible as parents to teach our kids the word of God, but it is God's word that actually convicts and brings about change. It is not about us, they still have a choice.
It is never too late to begin training a child in God's word.
How does God want you to obey? Right away, all the way, and with a happy heart.
Daily Prayer: Lord, help me to be wiser than my children.
Cori Salchert shares her heart behind fostering terminally ill babies and children. Her transparency as to the level of faith it takes to stay committed to this beautiful and yet heavy work God has called her to is such a perfect picture of God's strength working in our weakness.
Heart Lesson: I say I trust God and He gives me many opportunities to do so, many opportunities for me to look at God and judge my circumstances, and not judge God through my circumstances.
There is a heavy gravity to all of this. It is not light warfare and it is not all song and dance. Having a terminally ill child is not a walk in the park and I don't want to minimize the grief that goes along with that.
Courage is not the absence of fear, it is just determining that there is something greater at stake.
I want it to be so evident that I am doing all of this in God's power. I do not want to stand at the burning bush and say, "I stutter ..." I want God to use me.
You can't take this as all pain and you can't just take it as a gift; it's both.
song credit: Nichole Nordeman, You Are Good
When our life circumstances are so hard and leave us brokenhearted, can we still say that God is good?
Marshawn Evans Daniels, reinvention strategist and faith and business coach, talks about her newly released book, Believe Bigger, and encourages women to walk confidently in the purpose God has placed in their lives. We talk about the coexistence of both humility and confidence, what it means to find purpose in painful circumstances, and what it was like for her to be on Miss America. You are going to come away from this episode with a soul on fire for being ok to own whatever it is that God has called you to do.
Heart Lesson: Having permission to go at a slower pace and find the door opening in a time of pause rather than a time of pursuit.
5 Steps to Finding Your Purpose (Purpose Map):
Grace is what you need in the middle of battle when you're under attack.
When we see a need we can feel free to meet that need in that moment.
Believing something that seems too big to understand but believing in it anyway, that is the start of a greater purpose.
Purpose is a process. God is more concerned with our character than He is our calling and He wants us to have the capacity to fulfill our calling, so He's going to take us through a process.
Sometimes we don't know our purpose and so we just have to walk. We can't always make sense of what God is doing.
Your story will take you into a greater purpose.
God loves impossible circumstances. He loves to part the Red Seas.
His yoke is easy but we want to make it hard.
We need permission not to hide because then we are hiding what God has given us. And what if the very thing you are hiding is the very bridge someone needs to enter eternity?
God speaks in cans and not in can'ts.
Are we warrior princesses or are we not?
Christ was humble because He knew where His power came from.
Humility is about reliance and operating on an extension of who God is. Confidence is all about who we are because of who God is in us.
Godfidence is believing in the unseen and not being afraid to shine, but relying on who God has called me to be.
Giving ourselves permission allows us to take the limits off for the unlimited Holy Spirit.
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Mo Isom speaks openly and candidly about her sexual testimony and what her life looked like when she neglected to ask the question of why God calls His children to live a life of purity.
"It's about so much more than doing what's right and avoiding what's wrong. It's a reflection of preserving our bodies and our hearts for a God who gave His life for us first. " - Mo Isom
Heart Lesson: The realization and awe of the power of the Holy Spirit's operation within us.
Steps to overcoming addiction to porn:
We are creatures made to worship but quickly worship what we want.
We must begin by knowing what God calls us to and why He calls us to it so that we don't even give the enemy a foothold from the start.
The purity God calls us to is really a heart purity.
We can get lost in serving ourselves.
We need to get uncomfortable for the sake of our own lives. Eternity is at stake and yet we are often worried for a five-minute conversation.
Sin will win out every single time if we are not careful.
Sex (in marriage) is not just to serve ourselves, it is laying our lives down in service of another.
Sex (in marriage) is a powerful weapon against the enemy.
Journal and Reflection Page
Best-selling author, speaker, and all-around hilarious human shares her thoughts on living intentionally in the small moments, for it is in these small moments that life is built.
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Today on the podcast Erin Odom, aka the Humbled Homemaker, chats with us about being intentional with our finances. Today Erin shares with us the basic concepts for creating more space and margin in your budget as outlined in her newest book, You Can Stay Home with Your Kids, releasing on April 10th. We also talk about the importance of working within a budget and some really practical tips for setting up your own personal budget. If you have goals to maximize your cash dollars in 2018, this episode will be such a great resource.
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My guest today is Julie Rougeux, wife, mother, and executive director of the Pharoah's Daughters Marketplace. Julie also has a passion for fighting against injustice and standing in the gap for orphans and families who lack the resources to stand up for themselves. Our conversation today centers on her heart for adoption, her personal adoption stories, her involvement in the Pharoah's Daughter's Marketplace, and her passion for empowering women living in poverty to create a sustainable income. We also talk about the part you can play for standing in the gap for these people God loves.
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Welcome to Part I of the Intentionality Series of the Heart Lessons Podcast! In this intro episode we talk about intentionality in Scripture, how God models intentionality for us, and share the resources you shared on social media about all the things that are helping you live with greater intention. This episode kicks off the series designed to help you stay on track with your New Year's Resolutions.
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As a mother, I want what is best for my children. I want what will keep them happy, safe, and comfortable. And while my heart breaks over the reality that two of my children are no longer here, isn't that what they have in Heaven? Through Jesus, my babies have happy, safe, perfect life. Praise God that through the death of His Child, He made a way for mine.
Prayer to Receive Christ as Savior:
Dear Jesus, I believe in You. I believe that you died on the cross for me and rose the third day and are now in Heaven preparing a place for me. I want to accept Your gift of everlasting life and spend eternity with You. Please come into my life and save me from my sin. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.
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As the world turns to a new year, it is so common to enter into that newness with a handful of resolutions and a renewed sense of energy and intention for how to keep those resolutions. It's a new year, new page, fresh start. But what about those times when the difficulty, sadness, and grief from the previous year follow you into the next? This episode is dedicated to those listeners who are still feeling burdened by whatever hard things 2017 held for them and offers hopeful encouragement for how to move forward in that brokenness, keeping in mind that even broken can be beautiful.
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Song: "Beautiful Things" by Gungor
Merry Christmas friends! I'm so glad you're joining me for this Christmas podcast series. Today I will be sharing my two favorite Holiday Heart Lessons to meditate on during the Christmas season, the ones that continue to ground me in the reality of the baby who came to save us all from our sins.
In this episode my friend Justina joins me as we chat about Christmas stress, how to best handle it, and how to keep our hearts and minds focused on the true meaning of the holiday.
Keep Jesus at the center where He needs to be.
When you feel Christmas stress overshadowing your joy, take a second to recalibrate and remember what is actually important - family, love, peace, thankfulness - and try to rest in that perspective.
In this episode my friend Brittany joins me as we chat Christmas traditions of all shapes and sizes, read about some of your favorite traditions, and add in a few Christmas traditions that we can't even.
Make the whole month a simple, special celebration and focus on the truth of the holiday and God's word.
Hi friends! So glad you're joining me for episode 41 of Heart Lessons. My guest for today's episode is Nichole Nordeman. I can't even tell you how honored I was to interview someone whose music has been very present, almost theme-like, in some very pivotal seasons of my life. Her musical talent has earned her some very prestigious awards in the Christian music industry but today, our conversation was centered on motherhood and taking the time to slow down and enjoy the moments happening right in front of us, as inspired by her new book, Slow Down. Also, talking about the title track on Nichole's latest album, Every Mile Mattered, allowed us to explore the idea that no part of our story is wasted in God's hands.
I wish I could have talked to Nichole so much more about so many things, but I think I'll let those unexplored conversations point you over to her blog and her social media places so that you can get to know her story for yourself. She is an inspiration and a delight and a very talented writer, both musically and otherwise. Thank you again, Nichole, for connecting with me.
Heart Lesson: Lean on the Lord. Dependence on Jesus is a sign of strength, not weakness.
Hi friend! Welcome to episode 40 of the Heart Lessons Podcast. My special guest today is Melanie Rainer, director and editor of content for JellyTelly. In today's conversation Melanie and I talk about her personal experiences with graduating from seminary, the joys of parenting a toddler, and what her go-to resources are for teaching her own daughter about Jesus. We also talk all things JellyTelly - from the video devotionals, show streaming availability, to the ways to incorporate all of these great resources into your everyday conversation with your kids. If you are a parent or if you have little people in your life and you desire to influence them positively with the message of the gospel, I think this episode will really help introduce you to some wonderful tools to really make this sort of influence accessible and attainable.
Heart Lesson: The Lord goes before you.
Welcome to episode 39 of the Heart Lessons podcast. My guest today is Kelli Tobin from My Fit Finish. I have to say I am really thrilled that Kelli agreed to be a guest on the podcast because I had been praying for a guest that could speak to health and fitness. I try to think of the wide variety of subject matter that might interest Heart Lessons listeners and wanted to delve into the topic of health/fitness from a Christian perspective. I am so thankful Kelli said yes and that she is here today to speak truth into our lives when it comes to pursuing exercise and eating well. Her overarching theme is grace, which I love, so you will not feel condemned as you listen. Instead, I think you will come away feeling that taking steps toward health/fitness is important and also, attainable.
Heart Lesson: Be patient and let things take time.
Welcome to Episode 38 of the Heart Lessons Podcast. My special guest today is Nicole Jennings, the creative mind behind Color and Kindness, her online shop dedicated to providing resources to help introduce gospel concepts to kids. You can find scripture cards, coloring pages, and many other adorable and inspired resources.
We talk about the mix of motherhood and being a work-at-home mom, how she tries to expand her children's' worldview beyond their four walls. We also talk about Jesus meeting us where we are, not polished and presentable but right int he moment of temptation.
I know you are going to find this episode encouraging, especially if you have young children but really for anyone who has gospel influence on a little person.
Heart Lesson: Look for the ways that God has been good.
Hi friends! I'm so excited to welcome you to this episode of Heart Lessons with my special guest, Kristen Hatton. Kristen recently released a book entitled, Face Time: Your Identity in a Selfie World. It is a devotional book for teenage girls aimed at helping them realize they don't need to look to social media for security and affirmation because Christ already loves and accepts them, just as they are. We chat about her book and many of the life-giving concepts found there, she answers some of your listener questions, and we also hit on how this topic is relevant for young moms and laying the foundation now for your kids later. And of course, Kristen shares her heart lesson with us as she continues to dig deeper into this topic of true identity in Christ.
This episode is so good for anyone with a teenage daughter, anyone who mentors teen girls, anyone who will one day have a teenage daughter, but it is also really great for women in general and moms of teenage boys. There is a little something for everyone in this episode. I know you will find some great takeaways from my conversation with Kristen.
Heart Lesson: Keep a solid identity and satisfaction with Christ, especially with life changes.
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Hi friends! I'm so excited to share this episode of Heart Lessons with you today. My special guest is Kristin Schell. Kristin started the Turquoise Table and #frontyardpeople movement, which is all about building community with those around you. Kristin just released her first book and so we chat about many of the ideas she shared there including how to make space in your heart for others, the difference between hospitality and entertaining, and how we should be ok inviting others into our lives and homes because it is less about perfection and so much more about just belonging and being together.
In this age of being so "connected" via social media I think learning to connect with others in a face to face way is deeply important and I'm so happy Kristin was able to share her heart and her vision with us here.
Heart Lesson: Stay in communion with God and listen to Him.
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